I am attempting to live by a new motto which is part of the reason I am writing this after posting only two short days ago. Just say yes. Sounds pretty basic, but believe me when I say it can be a challenge. This post is a great example – the last thing I want to do is become one of these people who writes every day or so frequently that people begin to get annoyed. So, when I started thinking about this new way of living, the “just say yes” way, I felt inclined to go ahead and write about it today. So, I said YES to this post.
You might be wondering what I mean by Just Say Yes. It certainly does NOT mean that I give in to every request made of me. That would be exhausting and I’ve been down that road in the past. It is not worth it. What it does mean is that I am trying to accept invitations to do things when they come my way. I
am was the sort of person who would initially agree to do something and then later decide that I wasn’t going to participate because it seemed like either too much trouble or something that I wasn’t 100% interested in doing. Now, looking back, I wonder how many amazing experiences I probably passed up because I didn’t want to be bothered with it.
One of the biggest lessons that I have learned over the last two years is that hiding out at home because I am feeling less than great about my situation is not helpful. In fact, it is probably detrimental to my efforts. Sitting home alone only gives me more time to “what if” and focus on what was rather than what could be if I just got my ass out of the house. So, I started slowly saying yes. Yes to dinner with friends. Yes to road trips to see friends no matter how crazy the idea seemed. Yes to date requests. Yes to a 60-mile ruck on the east coast. Alone. That was an amazing “yes.”
Not every “yes” has led me to good experiences, but that is for another post. But more times than not, the experiences have been a lot of fun and have definitely helped to cultivate some pretty great relationships that I really treasure. I am learning to step outside of my comfort zone because, quite frankly, I honestly believe that being “too comfortable” contributed to the breakdown of my marriage (albeit a very small contribution.) And, hell, I am not even sure where the boundaries of my comfort zone lie anymore. I am learning to get to know people and really listen to their stories instead of making a snap decision about them based on a snippet in time.
The past weekend was filled with “just say yes” moments and I can honestly say that it was one of the best weekends that I have had in a long time. From music and drinks with friends that led to meeting new friends to a night laughing and bonding with friends at the Pat McAfee show, it was just an all-around great time. And to think that I almost said no to both of the invitations.
So the next time someone asks me to go out and do something and I feel the urge to say no, I am going to say yes. You never know when one “yes” will change your life for the better.