Support. We all need it. Every last one of us. And usually we have a good idea of who is going to provide it. Whether it’s support at work that you need or at home, you usually have those who are your go-to people. The ones you can depend on and who you know will be there no matter what.
Sometimes, however, people surprise you. In a good way. And support comes from the most unexpected source. I can remember vividly standing in my bedroom one morning in June of 2014. I was miserable. I was going through the motions, pretending to care about life, but really just wanting to check out because the pain was beyond my ability to manage. Out of the blue, I got a text from a friend of mine who I wasn’t really close to, but knew well enough. Meaning, I knew her well enough to call her my friend, but that’s about it. We became friends a couple of years earlier in a pretty funny way, but that’s not what matters here. What matters is what happened next. Her text said, “can I call you?” I agreed, but reluctantly because remember, I was a wreck. And I didn’t know what she wanted from me. I was in no condition to do anything or be anything for anyone. I was in pure survival mode. But I took the call. She simply asked me if I was okay. She said she sensed that something was going on and she just wanted to reach out. She didn’t want to pry. She wasn’t looking for drama or gossip. She just wanted to be sure I was okay. And I wasn’t. I told her that. I cried. I spilled it all (well I spilled what I knew at the time which wasn’t much.) And she listened. That was it. She just listened. And she supported me. She didn’t badmouth P. She didn’t express anger over the situation. She just listened. It was simple. In the middle of the workday, this friend that I knew “well enough” took the time to reach out and just listen. She didn’t have to. She didn’t “owe” it to me. She just noticed a slight change in what she was seeing in me and she reached out.
Since that day, she has been one of my best friends. She has been there for my highs and lows and I can tell you, it’s not always been pretty. She has never judged me or the way I have handled my situation. She just listens and supports me. And sometimes laughs at the really stupid things I get myself into at times. But isn’t that what friends do?
I am so thankful each and every day for the people in my life who stand by my side. It’s not always an easy place to be, but you do it anyway. And you do it so well.